There’s something about thirty-five that seems… daunting.
To be perfectly honest, I was dreading hitting thirty-five for weeks leading up to my birthday. It’s the first birthday I’ve ever felt this way about. It’s definitely the first milestone birthday I didn’t look forward to.
When it was all said and done, though, my thirty-fifth birthday came and went much like every other day does. The baby woke me early. The dog needed a walk. F had hockey (which we admittedly didn’t attend because we had a conflict in our schedule). In fact, the day of my actual birthday was probably the day I had the least rest and relaxation in a week!
With the day I officially turned “old” squarely behind me and me now in the new age bracket for surveys, I feel as though all of the uneasiness I had about being thirty-five has washed away and instead, I’m filled with gratitude. Gratitude for the lessons I’ve learned, the gifts I’ve received, and the life I’ve built so far.
Here’s 35 things I wish I’d known sooner:
- You’re never too old to laugh at a fart.
- If you don’t love it enough to wear it right now, leave it at the store.
- It’s exponentially better to have comfortable shoes than pretty ones (though props if you can combine the two).
- I’m not the mom I thought I would be and I’m glad for it.
- The kitchen never really stays clean and tidy for more than five minutes.
- Laughter isn’t always the best medicine but it’s usually an OK bandaid.
- It’s OK to cry.
- I would rather have a bubble bath every night than go to a fancy spa.
- Sleep should always be the number one priority.
- Exercise is not required for permission to eat food.
- Exercise is not a punishment for eating food.
- Clothing sizes make absolutely zero sense.
- Don’t get constipated.
- I probably need another glass of water.
- Try something that scares you a little as often as possible.
- A good hug can heal a lot.
- Always keep a stash of cards for every occasion handy.
- I love watching someone open a gift I’ve given them more than opening gifts myself.
- I don’t have to be everything to everyone. In fact, I cannot be.
- It’s OK to ask for help.
- No one has a fucking clue what they’re doing.
- Being a grown up is much less cool than anticipated at age seven.
- You’re never done vacuuming.
- Adulthood is basically just laundry.
- I am immensely privileged and have an obligation to recognize it and learn from others’ perspectives.
- One dog is enough dogs. (Don’t @ me)
- The best friends don’t keep receipts.
- Just get in the damn picture.
- No one is a tougher critic than we are of ourselves.
- One should absolutely always take advantage of the opportunity to be ridiculous at every turn.
- Hugs are very underrated.
- Tell everyone you love that you love them, often.
- Be yourself, unapologetically.
- Don’t say you’re sorry unless you mean it. Don’t say anything unless you mean it, actually.
- We could all be a little nicer to ourselves.