single mom

Making the Change

Sometimes the happiest endings come from beginnings filled with sadness.

It’s hard to believe that two years ago, I was relishing in the glow of newlyweddom (it’s my new word; deal with it). It’s harder still for me to wrap my head around the fact that just one short year ago I was in the preliminary process of the whole back-to-school-mama business. I’m not even sure I was truly convinced I’d do it. And here I am, about to graduate.

I’m incredibly fortunate to have had this opportunity and I know that. Many don’t. I’m blessed with great friends, wonderful parents and a community who stood behind me to offer support, words of kindness and consolation, cups of coffee to wake me up and shoulders to cry on when needed. It hasn’t been easy, but we did it.

When my plans to move to Ottawa came crashing down on my head and I found myself, clutching Kleenex and sobbing in my supervisor’s office, asking for my job back I felt like my whole world was about to implode. It was like I was perched precariously on the verge of total devastation, and unable to get away. It was a bad feeling. And then one day, I came home from work and got in the shower and let all of the sadness and bad feeling go down the drain with the suds from my shampoo.

Less than a year after totally uprooting my life and challenging myself in ways I didn’t think I could (and would rather not ever do again), I’m working in a field that I love and have been for nine months. I won’t stay here forever, but it’s a perfect fit for me right now. I made the decision to be happy, and though there will always be bumps in the road and obstacles to overcome, I’ve made it to a place where happiness really is my reality.

But it’s easy to get lost in sadness.

I know this because I’ve done it, and it was a long, hard battle to get out of the rut I had settled into. It’s easy to stay there. It’s easy to mistake comfort for contentment, or happiness. We settle for what we have, rather than dare to dream. Change is scary. It’s hard, it’s the unknown but it’s almost always worth the journey. 

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