When it comes to parenting, there are days when I feel like I’m doing it all wrong. I find solace knowing that most parents feel that way sometimes, but mostly I find myself standing in the doorway to F’s bedroom wondering how in the world I managed to raise this incredible little boy.

It seems like every week, he’s more grown up. Life moves fast, too fast sometimes, and I think of the million and one things I need to tell him.

1. You will never know it all. Don’t pretend you do.
2. Losing the game really isn’t the end of the world.
3. If it scares you, you should probably do it. Unless it’s illegal, then maybe don’t.
4. People will remember how you made them feel. Make them feel special, respected and valued.
5. Everybody poops.
6. There is almost nothing that can’t be figured out with an apology, a hug, a good night’s sleep or a long talk with a good friend.
7. You must own your happiness. There will be people who bring joy to your life, but your happiness begins with you. Don’t let someone else dictate it.
8. Not everyone is going to like you. And that’s OK.
9. Think before you speak.
10. Don’t waste a second feeling ashamed about something you want.
11. Every second is a fresh start. You can stop being an asshole anytime.
12. The people who love you most are the ones who will tell you the things that are hardest to hear.
13. If you love someone, tell them.
14. You are never too old to need your mom or dad.
15. Eat the last slice of pizza with unabashed enjoyment.
16. Ask for what you want, but don’t throw a temper tantrum if you don’t get it.
17. There will be many times when a hug is worth more than any words.
18. It is always OK to cry.
19. If you want to break up with someone, break up with them. Just don’t be a dick about it.
20. Revenge will never make you feel better. Let it go.
21. Everybody lies.
22. No one will remember what you wore on the first day of high school.
23. You are never too old to eat sugary cereal, watch cartoons or spend an evening playing glow-in-the-dark mini putt at the arcade.
24. It is better to be kind than well-liked or popular. (But genuinely being kind is a good way to be well-liked.)
25. Cake and cookie batter should always be licked from the bowl and spoon.
26. There is no shame in asking for help.
27. Don’t be afraid of winning, and never feel badly about it.
28. It’s not always about you.
29. You should totally dip your Oreos in peanut butter. And milk.
30. If you give up when you think it’s “all for nothing”, it really will be.
31. Don’t let anyone steal your sense of wonder.