single mom

Keeping Up

Do you ever feel like you’re trying to live up to something you can’t possibly match?

I do. Every. Single. Day.

My best friend and I were discussing the way we compare our lives to others’. It’s stupid and does nothing but leave us all with a bad taste in our mouths and a sense of failure. Keeping up with the Joneses is useless – Keeping up the with the Kardhasians, on the other hand… get on that shit (kidding, I promise!).

I always though that I’d have my whole life figured out by now. HA! Not bloody likely. I don’t even know what I’m doing on Friday, for crying out loud. Do I have a plan? Yes. Thank God plans don’t always work out. I say this with a hint of sarcasm, because my plans haven’t always worked out and while my life sometimes feels like a tornado, it’s pretty awesome.

For the record, at 25 I was planning on being famous, beautiful, married and living in a big house. The good news is I’m halfway there, except the married part was kind of a bust. But, for the first time in my life… I feel beautiful. I’ve finally given up on micromanaging every aspect of myself and my life. I’ve got stretchmarks like it’s nobody’s business. I’m not tall and thin like I planned on being – yes, I planned on growing taller. Well, I wanted to be. I wouldn’t say I’m famous, but I know at least one person who thinks I’m a rockstar. Hopefully more than one person feels that way. NOTE: I am not the one person.

Why did I feel like I needed to have my shit together at 25? I’ve got less than two months to get it sorted out if I’m going to, and that’s highly unlikely. Are there people who have their lives together at 25? Yup, and they’re really lucky. Am I envious? Maybe a little – I’d like to feel stable right now, but more than that, I want to explore every aspect of me. I want to figure out exactly what I want to do – I don’t want to be guessing it.

I’m only just stomping out my little path. It’s crossed loads of other paths, and there’s still a lot of paths for me to cross. It will go uphill, down hill and around the hill. I will get stuck, and probably lose a shoe here and there, but I’m going to rock every single minute of it!

Fifty years ago, I wouldn’t have had the opportunities I have today. My path would have been a lot smoother and would probably have rails along the side to make sure I didn’t fall off. But guess what?

I like my path. I like a little mud on my shoes. That’s why they invented rubber boots, duh!

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