2019 · fitness · health · parenting · style & beauty

i care, becky

Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts that say things like No one cares about your haircut, Katie, or No one cares about your workout plan, Alison, and to be fully honest… it drives me insane.

Firstly, if you don’t want to see what people are posting… maybe social media isn’t the place for you.

Secondly, if you don’t want to see one particular friend’s fitness journey unfold or hear about their pregnancy, unfriend or unfollow them (or select an option that lets you see fewer posts).

Thirdly, maybe look inward for a hot second and ask yourself why it bothers you so much in the first place.

Social media is just one of the tools we now have at our disposal to connect with our friends, loved ones, colleagues, and even total strangers across the world. It’s a tool that allows us to find new tribes, build our existing ones, and join in conversations about such a variety of topics I can’t begin to estimate them.

When it comes to diet and fitness related posts, I’ve heard everything from “I don’t just don’t want to see that,” to “I find it triggering,” which… I’m sorry, but in either scenario that’s on you. You need to take ownership of the feelings and behave accordingly. If that means we stop following each other on social media, so be it.

One friend who I confronted about her posts answered truthfully: seeing people completing runs or losing weight made her feel bad because she wasn’t doing the same things. She was being sucked into the social media vortex where everyone else is accomplishing and you feel like you’re not. But those feelings? They’re also on her.

There are so few things we can control in this world, but you can control the things you read about on social media. Curate your timeline. The end.

Because, when you post your snarky no one cares comment, you’re telling your friends you don’t care about the things they’ve accomplished, the things they’re passionate about and that translates into not caring about them. Is that really the message you want to send? Wouldn’t it be better to support people? Looping arms and lifting one another up is what the world needs – not people set on tearing others down.

So, if that’s truly how you feel, chances are good that no one will care that you don’t care. Welcome to the two-way street! We’re going to keep posting about the things we want to post about, Sally. Deal with it.

2 thoughts on “i care, becky

  1. As someone who posts openly about IVF and infertility, I’m a vocal supporter of the MUTE button or unfollowing anyone that causes you stress or pain. On the flip side, people need to not be personally offended when a friend or family member stops following them and recognize that it may have been for sensitive reasons.

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    1. Oh my gosh, absolutely! I had to unfollow/hide posts from a friend during her pregnancy not terribly long ago while I was in the midst of health issues that left my fertility a gigantic question mark. I was thrilled for her but it wasn’t good for my mental health to read about every update, every day. But I sure as shit wouldn’t post something like “No one cares your baby’s as big as an apple, Jennifer,” because that’s hurtful and completely uncalled for.

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